Porn Up, Rape Down

Not surprised.

Hardly conclusive evidence, but I'll bite, its a good theory.

I doubted the statistics but they seem to be correct. I still would not give credit to pornography but to education. Not to minimize the issue here are some other statistics:

In the United States, 1.3 women are raped every minute. That results in 78 rapes each hour, 1872 rapes each day, 56160 rapes ech month and 683,280 rapes each year. 1 out of every 3 American women will be sexually assulted in her lifetime. The United States has the world's highest rape rate of the countries that publish such statistics. It's 4 times higher than Germany, 13 times higher than England, and 20 times higher than Japan. 1 in 7 women will be raped by her husband. 83% of rape cases are ages 24 or under. 1 in 4 college women have either been raped or suffered attempted rape. 1 in 12 males students surveyed had commited acts that met the legal definition of rape. Furthermore, 84% of the men who had commited such acts said what they had done was definitely not rape. 75% of male students and 55% of female students involved in acquintance rape had been drinking or using drugs. Only 16% of rapes are ever reported to the police

One can't claim causation in this correlation, there are obviously many more factors at play here. But I think at the very least, it takes away the option of blaming porn for these things. Which is a good thing, because perhaps if we take away all these easy outs, we will start looking into more social and cultural factors that lead to sexual abuse.

I don't believe men have stronger sex drives than women do, and the major reason many women have so little interest in sex is because of being sexually abused or raped. When I was younger I had a strong sex drive but after exposure to sexual violence in the media and being raped myself, I didn't want anything to do with sex if it was like that. I believe that if men were raped as much as women are and exploited by the media as much as women are, they would dislike sex because of it. Anytime people are forced to do something against their will, they begin to dislike it. The reason for women getting raped more than men has to do with society being run by men. The male dominated culture that is so concerned about men's needs to the exclusion of women's need to the point of being abusive. Men have run everything in the world since recorded history. They have put themselves first and totally ignored the needs of women. Women weren't suppose to live their lives for themselves, but for men. Men had this totally selfish attitudes about women. Any one can be selfish. It women had been the one's to run things, women could have put women first and denied men education, job opportunites, etc. Women could have made the norm in society anything that benefits women to the exclusion of men's need. Men are born into a society where they are privileged and because they are privileged they get the impression that they are entitled to more privileges than women even to the point of abuse of women. White people have done the same to black people. Many white people believe they are entitled to more than black people because they are born into a world where white people benefit more than blacks. The same things that cause discrimination in the job market against women, are the same things that cause rape. The learned selfishness of men. Pornography tells men that men's sexual needs are more important than women's sexual needs, just like men feel their needs for money, a good education and a good job and material things should be more important to them than they should be to women. Well women have the same needs for a good education, a good career, a good lifestyle including good sex. Women are sexual beings too and men are totally ignoring our sexual needs just like all our needs. They are socialized to be self-centered. If they weren't socialized to be so self-centered and to think about women's need for a change, they wouldn't be raping women. Young children are selfish but they are suppose to grow up and grow out of this selfishness, but for many men, they never grow up and continue to believe the world should revolve around them. They care about no one but themselves, their sexual needs, etc. Men rape not because of high sex drives, but because of selfishness. Do you think it is OK for women to buy rape porn of women raping men? Women have sexual fantasies too, but just like everything else, men are so stuck on themselves that they don't even think women should be able to buy porn of their sexual fantasies.

You're just plain neurotic lady! This is a woman's world, not a man's world(unless you live in some muslim or asian country). If a woman is homeless the government will give her a place to live, if a man is homeless they could care less. If a woman wants to do anything a man does, she can do it. I don't think women should be in the military if they can't do EXACTLY what a man can do, ie:REAL pushups and the same amount as men have to, etc. If you want to be a man, then be one, otherwise you're a woman and you need to use what you have to make the life you want. As far as rape, men do it because they got away with it a little, then a little more, then alot, and then it becomes habit. It makes weak men feel stronger and more powerful. But to some people it's a fantasy they want to explore. Maybe not you, but ALOT of women fantasize about being raped. They don't WANT to actually BE raped, but the fantasy of it can sometimes arouse erotic feelings that are exciting to explore. There are people out there that fantasize about being eaten alive, or being strangled to death, and it's sexually stimulating to them. They don't really WANT this to happen, but the fantasy of it is somehow stimulating. Why? Who knows, everyone is different. But not everyone has sex just to make babies. Some actually do it for fun, and sometimes exploration can lead you into wild directions. Don't get me wrong, I have no sympathy for ANYONE who commits rape. My wife was raped several times by relatives, neighbors, and other men since she was 4, so I live with firsthand experience every day. It never goes away. But if consenting adults fantasize about seeing it performed by other consenting adults, then who are you to tell them what they can do? I had a friend who was murdered while working at a convenience store. She had her throat slit and died on the phone with 911. Does that mean I think they should stop showing murders on TV and movies? Using your logic, they should, because seeing it cause others to kill too. So why is ok to slaughter men womaen AND children(even on Star Wars episode 6!?!!) on TV in cold, ruthless, senseless ways, effectively glorifying it, yet adults aren't allowed to watch other adults pretending to have forced sex?? Which brings me to another peeve, maybe because I'm a man... Why is rape a worse crime that murder?? I would much rather have a guy stick his thing in me and do his business than remove my head from my body... Feel free to freak out on me, I tend to bring out the worst in people lol.

Just my two cents: I came across this discussion looking for a way to address my own forced sex fantasies while in a stable and trusting relationship. I've lived with a man I love dearly for four years now, we own a house and three cats together, (well, the cats mostly own us...) and we're talking about marriage. I have NO desire to be raped in reality, but I've had rape fantasies since I was a little girl. I've never been sexually assaulted, I grew up in a loving and supportive home, and my boyfriend is a very good man. My sister was raped by a friend in high school and it makes me sick every time I think about it. But my fantasies are very real and there is no ignoring them. I know rape fantasies among psychologically healthy women are not uncommon and I'm not ashamed, so I deal with it the best way I can: I watch and read porn! So now I'm addressing the fact that my strongest sexual fantasy cannot be realized (nor would I really want it to). Do I have these fantasies because I'm avoiding closeness? Do I want to give over control or not be responsible for my desires? Or is it just exactly like the woman who reads romance novels or the man who loves big breasts? I don't know. They're part of me, just like anyone's else's fantasies, no better, no worse. I can't speak for men who enjoy these fantasies, but porn has helped me validate these thoughts that I would otherwise feel guilty and confused about and share my fantasies with my boyfriend. Anyway, just my personal experience....